In the age of the independent woman, boss chick, and strong queen it makes it that much harder for a person to admittedly be vulnerable. Especially on social media, everybody is posting their highlight reels. So, it seems as if every person on the planet is running a successful business, falling in love, getting married, traveling the world, starting families, and living the most glamorous lives ever.
If you are feeling like you are struggling to get by, still working toward your goals, or having trouble getting over a hump, watching other people succeed may not only be a tough pill to swallow, but it may also feel a bit discouraging. I would never tell you how to feel, but I will tell you why you don’t have to be ashamed of not having it all together and needing help.
While most people may look as if they are living their best lives at all times, the truth is that everyone, and I do mean EVERYONE has some not so great days and NOBODY has it all together, regardless of what they may tell you. We go through periods where things may seem to be good…maybe even great. But to tell you the truth, everything must come to an end. Good times end and bad times end. Let that be an encouraging word to you.
If you’ve been struggling, know that it will come to an end. It has to.
Don’t be a person who wears a mask, pretending that things are all good, when you could use some good advice. Don’t cover up your hurt or troubles, when it would benefit you more to get help to heal or to work through some things. You owe it to yourself to be happy, healthy, and free from regrets.
Wouldn’t you rather have a beautiful life instead of a beautiful Instagram feed?
Sadly, all that some people have are followers and a shiny social media profile. Just by reading this article, I know that you want more for yourself. You value true healing over the smoke and mirrors. Congrats on being real with yourself.
Now, let’s talk about the benefits of getting the help you need.
Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed Of Needing Help
Everyone on the face of the earth needs help, whether they admit it or not. You are not the exception. However, the fact that you have recognized and acknowledged that you need help has placed you in a class of healthy, self-improvement driven people who really care about yourself.
Needing help is a normal part of life, and getting help is essential to any self-improvement journey. Getting help should be viewed as education. In order to get better at many things, you first need to educate yourself on how to go about it. When you see a therapist, s/he teaches you something in the process that you can use to handle things differently/better in the future. When you embark on a natural hair or weight loss journey, you first have to learn how to take care of your hair, or learn about proper nutrition.
When you get the help that you need, you will grow into a better version of yourself. Though your need for help will shift into other areas, where you currently need help the most will be lessened or eliminated completely. Then, you will be free to focus on other areas of self-improvement. And if you decide to share your progress or newness on social media, you can rest assured that your highlight reel is real. Feel me?
Get the help you need and leave the opinions of others in the wind behind you. Love yourself enough to stay focused on the things that matter. Everything else is irrelevant. People will try to make you feel less than. People will try to discourage you. People will try to hold you back to make themselves feel better.
You can break free from judgement. You can break free from the bondage of a negative mindset. You can have better. You can be better. You can do better. You just have to choose to do so.
How To Get The Help You Need
- Decide on what you could use help with.
- Find someone or some resource that can help in that area.
- Learn everything you need to in order to come away from the experience in a better position than you were in before.
- Recognize other areas of improvement that you could benefit from exploring, and repeat the above steps.
If you don’t know exactly what kind of help you need, it’s okay. You may just know how you’re feeling. That’s a great start. Your feelings can be a sort of GPS for you to find your way.
Talk through your feelings with a friend that you trust, or with a professional, and s/he may be able to help you to pinpoint the issue that may be causing you to feel a certain way. Then, you can work from there to heal and to grow.
Hold your head up, go get your help, and become the person you ultimately want to be. Be blessed on your journey, friend.
Author of The Mask and Creator of The Write Mind Studio
Andriea Denise is an author, educator, a philanthropist, singer/songwriter, and the founder of The Write Mind Studio. She is passionate about helping people to become the best versions of themselves and to live the lives they actively create.