When one thinks of winning, they often think of accomplishments, being equipped, and fully ready to receive at the end of the task, race or contest. If you think of a professional sports team, they have a mindset that exudes energy that their only expectation is to win. However, this is not always the case for many of us who are working towards a goal. We know that we have a desire, but our current situation seems to contradict where our desired goal is leading us.
When I sat down to write this blog, the only thing that kept resonating with me is that God uses us in our brokenness.
For the past two years, I have been on a journey towards creating, developing, and building a business. In doing so, I’ve learned that not only was I doing this for my business, but that I was also doing this for myself. As I reached each goal with winning status and joy, I often thought, “how could I keep winning like this, knowing that I have so much to work on internally.”
I also thought, why are people so receptive and supportive of what I am doing. If they knew how broken I was, would they support me? If they knew my struggles at times, would they be so understanding and available? This journey led me to a great place of understanding.
Throughout one’s journey, whether small or great, you will find yourself thinking how in the world did I get here? It is something that is so common, but not always discussed, not even with those closest to us. The broken place is real.
As I walked down the stairs one day to leave home, I was still mid-prayer and talking to God about my journey. While talking, I expressed how I am in awe of what God is doing and also the “HOW” is He doing this. Quickly, I heard, “I am using you in your brokenness.”
In that moment I realized that my broken place or the brokenness that I may feel is not indicative of my outcome. The brokenness is necessary at times so that we can hear and be open to moving according to God’s plan and not our own. There is an increased trust level that is developed when you are uncertain of yourself, but certain of God’s ability to guide you.
If you are in a place, where you are uncertain, trust God and trust that He has equipped you for the journey and the outcome. This shift in thinking allows you to function just like those on the professional sports team. They are not always certain, but they believe that the outcome is going to be a winning outcome. Even when we lose, we still win. We win because we learn, we took the risk and we regroup on how to proceed moving forward.
3 Ways to Encourage Yourself While In A Broken Place
1 Let mental reframing be your friend. For every thought that is contradicting to your goal, create a positive statement or affirmation that highlights your desired goal. Let your statements and affirmations reflect your ability to trust God in the process.
2 Be consistent and committed to the process and journey. I am a firm believer that God blesses those with strength, insight and guidance on their journey, when they are taking good care of the business they have been called to.
3 Let your language be honest and full of hope. You can talk about your brokenness, but highlight what will come out of you at the end. Speak life always, even when your feelings may not match. I promise you that your feelings will catch up to the outcome. Trust me!!
Remember, we are not perfect, but we are being made perfect by God. Your brokenness is part of the process, but it is not where you will be always. It is about walking a parallel journey that allows you to walk on the path of greatness while also healing and working through your brokenness. When this is acknowledged, it can be worked through. You have lived through much, and therefore, will come through much with a great reward.
Embrace the journey and understand that you are meant to WIN even in your brokenness. Selah.
Mrs. Lawrence is a Therapist for Therapists, Professionals and Couples. Mrs. Lawrence is also an Author, Speaker, Presenter, Trainer and Blogger for subject matter topics related to mental health education, marital enrichment, self-care and motivating entrepreneurs.
Mrs. Lawrence is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW-C/ LCSW) (MD/VA), Certified Anger Management Specialists-II (CAMS-II), Certified Prepare-Enrich Facilitator and Trainer, Certified Life Coach, Board Certified-TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH), an Approved Clinical Supervisor in Social Work (MD) and credentialed as an Employee Assistance Specialist-Clinician. She also holds a Certificate in Christian Ministries from the Evangel Bible College in Upper Marlboro, MD. She has over 15 years’ experience working with children, adults, couples and families.