Believe it or not, there are millions of people walking around on earth who have no idea of who they are. It’s not entirely their faults though. The truth is that people generally don’t know that they are unique individuals with the ability to make their own choices. The good news is that there is a way to get to know yourself and to start living a better life.
Why Don’t Some People Know Who They Are?
Well, from a very young age, we are conditioned to follow, to fall in line, and to conform to whatever the authorities in our lives deem the best for us.
We learn that we’re smart if we learn certain pieces of information. We learn that we’re talented if we perform at certain levels in select fields. We learn that we have potential if we operate within our teachers’ guidelines.
By the time we’re adults, we’re programmed to eat what TV tells us is tasty, wear what magazines and celebrities tell us is trendy, go where influencers tell us are the best spots in town, and like whatever is advertised the most.
Please note that there is nothing wrong with being a person who likes to follow trends. The only point I’m making here is that there are many people who do these things without ever giving thought to whether they want to or not.
Did You Know?
You have control over the majority of things in your day-to-day life? You can choose just about everything. Yet, millions of people allow someone else to have that control over them.
If you want to get to know yourself and start to take control over your own life, keep reading.
How To Get To Know Yourself
Get Quiet.There is nothing like silence to help you to get in tune with yourself. When there is quiet around you, you are left with your thoughts. It is then that you can observe who lives inside of you. What kinds of thoughts run through your mind? Are they mostly positive? Negative? Judgemental? Funny? Do you enjoy spending time with yourself? Do you like who you are inside? Or could that inner person use some improvements?
Be Alone.Too many people find their identity within the people they are surrounded by. Whether you realize it or not, the people in your space have influence over your thoughts and actions. When you spend time alone, you can better determine what things you really think and feel. You determine what you want to do, where you want to go, and how you want to look without any outside influences. So, spend more time alone, with your thoughts, and see how freeing it feels.
Be Honest.Because there are so many influences in our lives, it’s easy to hide and to pull away from our true thoughts and feelings. If you have ever thought about going horseback riding, but decided against it, because someone you care about said that it was stupid or dangerous, you weren’t being honest with yourself. If you love musicals, but hide that fact, because someone else may think it’s lame, again, you’re not being honest with yourself. Be honest and own what you enjoy, want to experience, etc.
Be Observant.You are more likely to make a good decision when you know what is what. If you have never left the place where you were born and raised, how can you know where you prefer to live? If you’ve never traveled, how can you know what your favorite place on earth is? If you’ve only been around one group of people, how can you know if you have interests outside of the things you do with them?
If you have been moving through life in line with everyone else, you may need to break away and explore different things just to find out what you really prefer. Do you enjoy romantic movies? Exotic foods? Book Clubs? Kickboxing? You’ll never know if you don’t try it out. Get out and see what else life has to offer besides the things you’ve been routinely experiencing.
Once you start to learn who you are on the inside, you’ll notice that your outside may begin to change as well. Your environment may look different. Your tastes may be altered. You’ll make different choices for yourself.
There is an inner strength that comes with learning yourself. Your self-confidence is boosted, and you will start to demand more out of life than you did before. You may develop the desire to have control over your own life, and that’s when you really start living.
Piece of Advice
Because life is made up of a series of choices, you don’t have to worry about making the wrong choice. If you make a choice and don’t like the outcome, you can make another choice that steers you away from that situation. If you make a choice and love the outcome, you can make more choices that steer you further in that direction.
How to Take Control of Your Life & Make It Amazing is a quick and simple guide on steering your life in the direction of your choosing. By understanding who you are and how unique you are, you are able to clearly see what you want for yourself. With a clear path of vision, you can make beneficial moves that will enhance your life.
Author of The Mask and Creator of The Write Mind Studio
Andriea Denise is an author, educator, and entrepreneur. She is the founder of The Write Mind Studio, and passionate about helping people to become the best versions of themselves and to live the lives they actively create.